“Well, yeah, it’s a day off, but after this, I pick up the kid and take him to soccer practice, then help him with his homework, then put together something for dinner. So, it’s not really a day off,” said Gary, a 40 something father in our wine-tasting group. It wasn’t that he was complaining. He was simply trying to explain to Dani a 20 something, not yet a parent, how becoming a parent kind of redefines ‘free time’ and absorbs days off.
I couldn’t help but back up what Gary was saying. “Once you have kids, there’s no such thing as time off. Time to yourself becomes a precious commodity. That’s true from infancy until young adulthood. Parenting is work, energy, attention and all of your time. Going to a job is easier than parenting because at work you have both hands free and are in full control of where you want to focus your thoughts.”
Dani got a pained look on her face. “You guys are making rethink the whole kid thing.”
How does one explain the joys of parenthood to a wine person? I think like this. The time before kids is like Chateau Febregues a crisp citrusy rosé from Costieres de Nimes. It’s made from Grenache and Syrah grapes and has flavors of strawberry, cranberry and lime zest with a hint of mineral on the finish. It is light, bright, refreshing and delightful.
Parenthood is like Chateau Haut Bergey a right bank Bordeaux from Pessac-Leognon. It is 70% Cabernet Sauvignon and 30% Merlot. Intense and earthy, this wine has great structure with aromas of chocolate, licorice, dark fruit, dried herbs, and tobacco. Rich and layered, each sip presents a new aroma. Chateau Haut Bergey is a deep, complex wine that demands time and attention.
Bordeaux are not cheap and they require some thought to truly appreciate. But I can’t imagine life without Bordeaux.